June Joy

Bronwyn and Bob June 4th, 2022

Can it be a week ago — more now — that we celebrated a wonderful wedding for Bronwyn and her new husband Bob?  I cannot believe it. My photos do not do it justice, still I smile as I look through them, images like jewels, slipping through my fingers—

Gorgeous weather. House full of family. Every corner full..  On the one rainy evening, Bronwyn’s Fire Circle comes inside, symbolized by a table full of candles. The table surrounded by a circle of aunts, sisters, mothers, cousins, friends, warm-hearted women speaking with love about marriage and relationship, encircled again by buckets of wedding flowers.

Then preparations…and practice…

Sister love!
Oskar decorating….
… With Aunt Ann.
Sister Freya, dress maker and musician and…

… And feasting! …speeches, and songs…-

Father of the groom and father of the bride
Uncles singing supervised by Madge the mastiff
Joel and Lee, joyful parents of the groom

Suddenly it’s the wedding day– bright sun, dewy grass under my feet and dogwood petal shower for my girl. A sunny room full of bride and bridesmaids getting beautiful — and little granddaughters running back and forth admiring.

Our new house is suddenly complete, very much a home.

Then hurry to dress — to arrive at the cathedral and watch our daughter and her groom standing for photographs, overlooking the valley below.                                                            No time to find out from Owen, “What are you thinking?…” From your beginning there was always the two of you, sharing bottles and laughter.

Our new soon-to-be in-laws beaming, gracious in gorgeous togs. Everyone smiling — groomsmen, bridesmaids, parents, grandparents — holding each other close because life is so precious. Even those who have passed from us seem close, holding us with love–

Brother Chris gets the feel for supporting Owen
More sister love
Sister Libby, and Grandma Margaret anchor the bevy of beauties
You said it James
Grandaughter Marlee dispensing petals
Skye dispensing more petals – her first gig…
Shepherded by grandson Stephen, bearing rings.

Heart-opening vows to each other, against the stone stained by purple light… then joy

beaming on their way back down the aisle.

Everything too fast– too fast.

I admit I’m greedy. I cling.  It ‘s hard to let go of all that family, and say goodbye. It has taken  days to recover. The bride’s room is emptied of its bride, except for a spill of flower petals on the floor. The candles are still placed, discarded flowers. I can’t bring myself to put the furniture away where it goes. My wonderful sisters head back to their own homes… No little granddaughter voices pipe in the hallways, no one to ride on the concrete rabbit in the garden. The dollies, so happy to be rediscovered after their long hibernation, sit on the couch, hair askew.

Still, the memory of the beautiful couple driving off into the sunshine on Sunday afternoon, loaded with gifts, to build their first home together in Atlanta stays with me, and nourishes me. Extravagant waving. Farewell to a prior life – even though I still see my little girl collecting things in her shopping cart, and adorned in costumes, and the teenager singing in the woods, the art student exploring expression in clay adventuring in Italy — those days are really done.

“Nostalgia is a trap,” my mom once said.

My neighbor stopped by to congratulate us. She says I must teach her how to play Pooh Sticks over the Pennypack Creek.  Not the same as playing it with granddaughters Marlee and Skye…but I’ll take it.

10 thoughts on “June Joy

  1. nabobs05@msn.com June 17, 2022 / 3:15 pm

    Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful…- Aunt Naomi ________________________________


  2. Allie June 17, 2022 / 8:23 pm

    Brought tears to my eyes! What a fabulous time!


  3. Allison Griffiths June 17, 2022 / 8:26 pm

    Oh Wystan,

    How perfect! So happy for you! I love the blue and gold theme, too,

    Love, ~Allie


    Liked by 1 person

  4. Mary P Grubb June 18, 2022 / 12:19 am

    Thanks for sharing your beautiful wedding with us with all these lovely photos!!

    Liked by 1 person

  5. Gray Glenn June 18, 2022 / 12:53 am

    I found myself scrolling and re-scrolling, when suddenly I realized the year is 2022 and I could probably find Bronwyn and Rob’s wedding on the Cathedral site–and I did!!! Wept buckets. Why do graduations and wedding so often fall on the same day? I hated not being there AND I love how you can bring us there. XXXooo Gray


  6. wystansimons June 18, 2022 / 2:08 am

    Your name came up on the evening of our Fire Circle, Gray — as a wonderful “woman presence” in the lives of the Gladish girls…😘


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